It’s not always easy to accomplish manifestation. In spite of your best efforts and intentions, insecurity keeps creeping in, nothing seems to be working, and you risk manifesting your doubts and fears rather than your desires.
First, you aren’t a “bad” or “unworthy” person; you just need to do a little internal reset. Why does it seem like everything you ask for doesn’t come true? Because deep down inside, you believe there must be something wrong with you, or that somehow you are undeserving. This is why your negative thoughts keep popping up.
The reason things you don’t really want show up is because deep in our subconscious minds we have beliefs about life that tell us that the crappy stuff that happens is supposed to happen, or we aren’t allowed to have what we truly want. We have been programmed to think this way.
In order to stop manifesting our fears, we have to take responsibility for our reality, take back our power, and make our belief in ourselves stronger than our fear. We have to heal our belief systems and take positive action.
You have to learn how to say no to people, places, situations, etc., that bring out your negativity. When someone tries to pull you into their drama, you have to step away and let go of the situation. If you find yourself getting sucked into someone else’s emotional vortex, remind yourself that you are responsible for your own emotions.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, remember that when you feel anxious, fearful, angry, sad, stressed, or depressed, you are actually telling yourself that you deserve whatever is happening to you. So, you might as well change your thinking and start believing that you deserve better.
When you are having trouble letting go of something, visualize yourself already living the life you want. Imagine being happy, healthy, wealthy, loving, and successful. Visualize yourself doing those things every day. See yourself enjoying your desired outcome. Then, see yourself walking around with confidence and joy. Know that you are worthy of happiness.
Why You Keep Manifesting Negative Things
If you keep attracting unfavorable circumstances into your life, your belief system isn’t in line with what you are wanting.
Our lives revolve heavily around our beliefs. They influence how we feel, act, and who we are. Unfortunately, many of our beliefs do not match the outcomes we desire.
The majority of what you experience in life is a result of your actions, your vibration (the energy you are putting out into the universe), and the choices you make in life based on your beliefs.
Naturally, your future reality will reflect your existing beliefs since your present reality is a manifestation of your prior belief system.
So you must change your current beliefs if you wish to create better things in the future.
Stop Giving Away Your Power
One of the main reasons we attract things into our lives that make us unhappy is because we have given up our power, let others influence us, and make excuses for them.
We also give our power away when we allow others to dictate what we should be doing, when we try to please everyone, and when we give up too easily.
Here are some signs that you are giving your power away to others:
- You tend to follow your doubts and fears instead of listening to your gut.
- You are waiting for somebody else to give you the thing you want.
- You blame others when things don’t work out.
You Don’t Have Any Clarity Of What You Want In Your Life
Most people go through life without really knowing exactly what they want. They spend hours wondering “what do I want?” and “how do I get it?”. But the truth is, most people end up doing things they didn’t intend to do because they weren’t sure what they wanted.
They drift along, never making decisions and following paths that aren’t necessarily leading them towards anything meaningful. And over time, this leads to a lot of frustration and unhappiness. So how does someone figure out what they want? How do we decide what our priorities are? What do we want?
The answer to those questions isn’t easy. In fact, it’s probably one of the hardest things anyone will ever face. But once you start thinking about it, you realize that every decision you make affects everything else in your life. So if you don’t know what you want, you won’t be able to make good choices.
And that’s why it’s important to think about what you want. Because when you know what you want, it becomes much easier to achieve it.
So how do we figure out what we want?
Well, here’s the thing – there’s no formula. There’s no secret process that will guarantee success. You just have to ask yourself some simple questions.
First, you have to ask yourself what you truly value. Then you have to ask yourself why you value those things. Why are they important to you? And finally, you have to ask why you want those things. Why do you want to live the way you do?
How To Stop Manifesting Your Fears
Awareness is the first step to stopping manifesting your fears. You want to know how to stop manifesting your fears because it feels really uncomfortable. But once you understand where those feelings come from, you’ll be able to change them.
If you’re worried about something happening in the future, ask yourself, “What am I afraid will happen?” We often think that our fears are based on facts, but most of the time, they aren’t. So, start asking questions. For example, “Why do I believe that my partner isn’t trustworthy?” “Why do I spend too much money?” “Why does being successful scare me?”
Once you’ve asked yourself these questions, you’ll be ready to take action. If you find that you still have some resistance, try writing down your thoughts. This might make you realize that there is no reason to worry.
Change the Wiring of Your beliefs
Your beliefs are the foundation of who you are. They determine your values, your goals, and your dreams.
But sometimes, our beliefs can cause us to feel anxious or depressed. That’s because our beliefs are usually formed by experiences in childhood.
For example, if you were raised by parents who told you that you couldn’t succeed, then you may subconsciously hold onto that belief even though it doesn’t apply anymore.
You can rewire your beliefs so that they support your current lifestyle instead of holding you back. Start with small changes like saying positive affirmations (like “I love myself”) out loud. Or write down your new beliefs and put them somewhere visible.
You can also use visualization techniques to help you rewire your beliefs. Visualize yourself living your dream life. See yourself doing all the things that you want to do. Feel the emotions associated with achieving your goals.
When you visualize yourself as already having achieved your goal, you’ll begin to associate that feeling with the thought of actually achieving it. It’s kind of like learning a foreign language . The more you practice speaking the language, the faster you’ll learn it.
The same goes for visualizing yourself as already having achieved a goal. By practicing this technique over and over again, you’ll eventually get used to thinking positively.
When you’re ready, you can move on to bigger challenges. Try setting a goal that requires a lot of effort. For example, maybe you want to lose weight. Instead of focusing on the fact that you haven’t lost any weight yet, focus on the progress you’ve made.
By reframing your thoughts, you’ll be able change your behavior. And that’s what it takes to create lasting change.
Give your Inner Child What They Have Always Wanted
We all have an inner child inside of us. He or she wants to play and explore. But we don’t always give him or her the freedom to do so.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated at work, you know how hard it can be to let go of the past. You probably had a job where you felt like you didn’t belong. Maybe you were bullied or treated unfairly.
If you grew up in a home where you weren’t allowed to express yourself, you may not have learned how to communicate effectively.
In other words, you may not have been given the opportunity to develop self-confidence. As a result, you may have developed negative beliefs about yourself.
So now that you’re older, you need to start giving your inner child the freedom he or she deserves.
Start by taking some time to reflect on your childhood. What went wrong? Why was there no encouragement from your family?
What could you have done differently? If you were abused, talk to a counselor. If you were neglected, talk to a therapist.
Once you understand why you behaved the way you did, you can make better decisions moving forward.
And remember: Your inner child is still part of you. So if you treat him or her well, he or she will return the favor.
When you blame others for your problems, you become a victim.
But when you take responsibility for your own actions and feelings, you become empowered.
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t hold others accountable for their actions. It means that you should also take responsibility for your own choices.
After all, you can’t expect anyone else to fix your problems.
Instead, you need to take action. And this starts with accepting full responsibility for your own happiness.
Think about it. When you complain about something, you’re essentially saying “I’m not happy.”
But if you’re truly unhappy, then you must be doing something wrong.
So instead of complaining, ask yourself what you can do to change things.
Maybe you can improve your relationships with your spouse or partner . Or maybe you can work on improving your finances.
If you don’t want to change anything, then you’re probably being unrealistic.
Because if you really wanted to change, you would already be making changes.
So the first step is to admit that you’re unhappy. Then you need to figure out what you can do to fix it.
Don’t let other people dictate your destiny . Take charge of your life.
How To Stop Visualizing Negative Things
Visualizing yourself overcoming your fear and accomplishing your goal can be beneficial, but there are times when we find it difficult to stop replaying negative scenarios in our minds.
Sometimes we even start to believe that they’re real.
In these situations, it may help to use visualization techniques to overcome your fear.
Here are some tips for stopping visualizing bad things:
Burst the Ball
Imagine as if you are inside of a ball filled with energy. If this ball surrounding you is filled with negative energy, then you must burst the ball. Picture the negative energy oozing out of the ball like air out of a balloon. Keep going until all of your negative thoughts have disappeared. You might need to repeat this process multiple times.
Hit “X” on the Tab
A lot of us tend to have a lot of tabs open on our web browser. This can be likened to our thoughts. When you have a negative thought pop up in your mind, just click on the X button to get rid of it. If you have multiple tabs open related to one specific fear, close them until you’ve dealt with all of them.
Then picture a new tab opening with an inspiring idea or a pleasant vision.
Another way to deal with negative thoughts is by calling them out. For example, say “Stop thinking about that!” or “You’re imagining too much.”
The more you call out negative thoughts, the less power they will have over you.
Just remember that you don’t have to eliminate every single negative thought from your head. Just focus on the ones that keep coming back.
And once you’ve stopped visualizing bad things, you’ll feel better.
It’s important to realize that no matter how hard you try, you won’t always succeed at eliminating negative thoughts from your mind. But you can learn to control them.
When you face a challenge, visualize success. Visualize yourself achieving your goals.
This will give you the confidence to move forward.
Remember that you’re never alone. There are millions of people who share your same struggles .
They’re also working through their own challenges. And they’re doing so while trying to make positive changes in their lives.
So reach out to someone else. Share your story. Ask for advice.
And most importantly, stay strong!